I have started a new section in my blog called as "My Melancholy" where i would be discussing/posting about things which are more important than a perfect eyeliner application or clean cuticles.
My first post in this section is going to be about my very first (bad) experience which made me feel like an useless piece of ****. Domestic Violence.
We all know that some of us women are treated badly at many places across the globe. We are still, even at this so called modern society, expected to endure all these social evils. It is really saddening to note that, some of the men who subject the ladies to all these are highly educated.
I live in an apartment complex. In my floor we all are like a mini family. We help each other, celebrate (all) festivals together, treat each other as a guinea pig for testing the delicacies we tried for the first time and it was all so good. Suddenly, we heard screams from our opposite flat which housed a beautiful family of three. The lady and her husband were professionals and their kid was in primary school. The screams slowly became a regular phenomenon with the maids gossiping that the man used to slap his wife, they have some family problem etc. In the afternoon, their flat door was left open, the man was slapping the lady, who and her little kid were screaming and asking the man to stop. It was happening right in front of my eyes in their living room. I was stupefied for a minute. I have never seen an adult woman getting slapped by a guy in my entire life. I have seen it in the movies but this was so horrifying. My other neighbor came out after listening to the shrieks and was equally stupefied. I ran inside my home. I was too scared to speak. But the other neighbor asked the man to stop abusing the woman. To every one’s surprise the woman who was getting slapped pleaded to keep away from her “family” issue.
Is domestic abuse a family issue? I was appalled by the fact that both of them are highly qualified professionals. Like how low can the man can stoop? Why are women like her subjecting themselves to such an abuse? Obviously there is no love in this relationship. No true love will stoop to the extent of slapping and abusing a life partner.
Now my another bothering thought is, what example does the woman and her abusive husband give to their son? Is it okay to get slapped by the husband? Or it is an undisclosed condition that the lady is expected to follow when she gets married? I heard that even the parents of the girl advise her to adjust with her husband so that her family’s name doesn't get spoiled in the society. Aren't men equally responsible for the so called “family” name?
I don’t know what to say but according to me, a sensible woman would rather desire to be alive and single than be abused with a “sumankali” title accompanied by lots of ashirvaad’s from the society.
Ladies, please say no to domestic violence. By saying so, you are not just helping yourself but you are helping the society as a whole.
Have you ever come across such a situation? What would be your advice to such women who in spite of their education and career “still” continue to endure such abuses?
I came across this article by reuters.com. Do take a look at it as it projects the ugly face of the so called educated society.
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